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Tantric Sex 101

Not that long ago after a very intense love making session…I looked at my partner a little in shock and awe…and I asked him quite stunned…How did you do that? And He said I practice Tantric
Sex…oooohhh hoity toity… I looked at him and rolled my eyes
BUT…when I was at dinner with a girlfriend this weekend..she told me that she was shocked that her man could achieve an orgasm and just keep going… Now I’ve had a man that could do that…but apparently when she shared her amazing fete with another girl friend…she said…Palease, he didn’t invent anything…it’s just Tantric…
So is your interest peaked???
Tantric Sex is an ancient Hindu Practice that is characterized by intense spiritual and sexual connection.  It’s one of the only spiritual practice that allows you to be sexually free, instead of it being a sin.  And although I’m not asking you to convert… I am saying that maybe if you add some of the tantric practices into your sexual routine you will have a better sex life.
So let’s get started.
Tantric 101
Create a love den…
You don’t have to create a love shrine. But It might help you to set the mood. Create an atmosphere where you will not only tantalize your mates body but his/her senses as well.  Burn incents or scented candles that help to create an aromatically stimulating environment.  Try natural oils like jasmine, ylang ylang and rose.
Breathe each other’s breath.. this is a pretty simple one.  Lay on your partners chest and While your partner exhales you inhale and vice versa. When you synchronize your breathing it will allow you to relax and concentrate on the simple movements of your body. Becoming conscious about your breathing is central to all yoga practices, and it helps you become centered.
EYE Fuck
Maintain Eye Contact…Now there are different suggestions on how to do this. But Try to Look your man in his eye the whole way through. This might be uncomfortable But I know men love to see the look in his woman’s face when she is going down on him, when he is going down on her or even climaxing.
Touch..
There are a lot of erogenous zones that get no attention.  Touch, kiss, lick, massage, stroke your way to the promise land. But make sure that your obvious sexual parts are the very last to get attention.
Sure enough, achieving the big “O” is not Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. If you focus solely on the grand finale, you’ll miss the amazing range of feeling the rest of the show offers.
“Your ultimate, erotic mission is to set every nerve on fire, so go ahead and be creative. “
Tantric Sex – The Secret to Tantric Sex – Cosmopolitan
Cosmo’s Tantra Tricks
• The Waterfall: Place your hand over his penis, fingertips resting lightly on his scrotum, and pour lubricant over the back of your hand so that it trickles between your fingers. Then place your hands on either side of his testicles and slowly, gently slide them up all the way to the tip of his penis. To let him cool down, ask your guy to do the same move on you, cupping his hand over your hot spot, letting the lube drip through his fingers, then spreading the oil up over your clitoris and pubic bone.
• The Serpent: Very gently, stretch the shaft of his penis with one hand by pulling away from his body, and make a circle with the thumb and index finger of your other hand just under the head of his penis. Rotate the circle clockwise until your thumb naturally lifts all the way off the head, repeating the motion as long as he can stand it.
• The Tantric Triangle Touch: With your legs open and bent, your guy inserts his index and middle fingers inside you until the tips are pressing upward just beyond your pubic bone in G-spot territory. He then makes a gentle “come here” movement with his fingers — caressing that sensitive oh-god area — while at the same time resting his other palm on your abdomen within reaching distance of your clitoris (with his fingers pointing up, his arms form a triangle). “I’ve never felt so aroused,” says Lily, 24, whose boyfriend used this passion-revving move on her. “The combination of G-spot stroking, pressure on my pubic area and clitoris caressing created a pleasure triple-whammy. It was a kind of bliss I’d only read about in books with Fabio on the cover.”
Read more: Tantric Sex – The Secret to Tantric Sex – Cosmopolitan

Not that long ago after a very intense love making session…I looked at my partner a little in shock and awe…and I asked him quite stunned…How did you do that? And He said I practice Tantric Sex…oooohhh hoity toity… I looked at him and rolled my eyes BUT…when I was at dinner with a girlfriend this weekend..she told me that she was shocked that her man could achieve an orgasm and just keep going… Now I’ve had a man that could do that…but apparently when she shared her amazing fete with another girl friend…she said…Palease, he didn’t invent anything…it’s just Tantric…
So is your interest peaked???Tantric Sex is an ancient Hindu Practice that is characterized by intense spiritual and sexual connection.  It’s one of the only spiritual practice that allows you to be sexually free, instead of it being a sin.  And although I’m not asking you to convert… I am saying that maybe if you add some of the tantric practices into your sexual routine you will have a better sex life.
So let’s get started. Tantric 101Create a love den…You don’t have to create a love shrine. But It might help you to set the mood. Create an atmosphere where you will not only tantalize your mates body but his/her senses as well.  Burn incents or scented candles that help to create an aromatically stimulating environment.  Try natural oils like jasmine, ylang ylang and rose.Breathe each other’s breath.. this is a pretty simple one.  Lay on your partners chest and While your partner exhales you inhale and vice versa. When you synchronize your breathing it will allow you to relax and concentrate on the simple movements of your body. Becoming conscious about your breathing is central to all yoga practices, and it helps you become centered.

EYE Fuck Maintain Eye Contact…Now there are different suggestions on how to do this. But Try to Look your man in his eye the whole way through. This might be uncomfortable But I know men love to see the look in his woman’s face when she is going down on him, when he is going down on her or even climaxing. Touch..There are a lot of erogenous zones that get no attention.  Touch, kiss, lick, massage, stroke your way to the promise land. But make sure that your obvious sexual parts are the very last to get attention.  Sure enough, achieving the big “O” is not Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. If you focus solely on the grand finale, you’ll miss the amazing range of feeling the rest of the show offers.
Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/tantric-sex-for-beginners-4-easy-tips.html#ixzz1UPTMyj48

“Your ultimate, erotic mission is to set every nerve on fire, so go ahead and be creative. “ Tantric Sex – The Secret to Tantric Sex – Cosmopolitan
Cosmo’s Tantra Tricks

• The Waterfall: Place your hand over his penis, fingertips resting lightly on his scrotum, and pour lubricant over the back of your hand so that it trickles between your fingers. Then place your hands on either side of his testicles and slowly, gently slide them up all the way to the tip of his penis. To let him cool down, ask your guy to do the same move on you, cupping his hand over your hot spot, letting the lube drip through his fingers, then spreading the oil up over your clitoris and pubic bone.• The Serpent: Very gently, stretch the shaft of his penis with one hand by pulling away from his body, and make a circle with the thumb and index finger of your other hand just under the head of his penis. Rotate the circle clockwise until your thumb naturally lifts all the way off the head, repeating the motion as long as he can stand it.• The Tantric Triangle Touch: With your legs open and bent, your guy inserts his index and middle fingers inside you until the tips are pressing upward just beyond your pubic bone in G-spot territory. He then makes a gentle “come here” movement with his fingers — caressing that sensitive oh-god area — while at the same time resting his other palm on your abdomen within reaching distance of your clitoris (with his fingers pointing up, his arms form a triangle). “I’ve never felt so aroused,” says Lily, 24, whose boyfriend used this passion-revving move on her. “The combination of G-spot stroking, pressure on my pubic area and clitoris caressing created a pleasure triple-whammy. It was a kind of bliss I’d only read about in books with Fabio on the cover.”

Read more: Tantric Sex – The Secret to Tantric Sex – Cosmopolitan

How to Have the Best Single Girl Summer

A few weeks back A wonderful new book called Single Girl’s Summer came to my attention.  Of Course us here at Single Girl’s Guide to Men could relate to another young single trying to live their best single life and summertime is my favorite time of the year to be single.

And with the passing of the fourth of July the Single Girl Summer 2011 is in full swing so we thought we would reach out to Deanna Burrell Author of Single Girl’s Summer to find out about her new novel and how we could make this summer this best Single Girl’s Summer EVER!!!

Single Girl Summer is about embracing life and making the most of you time and talents. Here are some suggestions to have the best Single Girl Summer ever.

Tell me about the characters in your book… The three main characters are Button Jackson, Meghan

Deanna Burrell Author of "Single Girl Summer"

Cherry, and Dawn Martin. Each woman represents a different perspective on being single. Button Jackson is the self-proclaimed, ultimate singe girl who loves to date, but has no female friends. Meghan Cherry is nursing the wounds from a fresh and painful divorce. Dawn Martin is driving herself crazy as she’s stuck in purgatory waiting for a marriage proposal from her long-term boyfriend. They meet in the spring and embark on this Single Girl Summer adventure together where you find themselves sharing their relationship perspectives and learning from each other.

Tips For Having Your Best Single Girl’s Summer

1) Go out “with yourself” at least once. Don’t say “by yourself”, because you’re marvelous company and you’re not by yourself. You’re “with yourself”. Go the movies with yourself. If you’ve never done this before, I can understand your apprehension. But it’s really easy. I don’t recommend going to a weekend evening showing because there’ll be a lot of people there and it’s prime date time.But if you must go to the first showing on the weekends or take a day off from work and go during the weekday. It won’t be really crowded and I guarantee there’ll be other solo people there. Don’t feel the need to make conversation with anyone, just chill and enjoy the thoughts in your own head. You make an awesome party of one.

2) Speaking of parties of one, Celebrate you.Don’t wait for a special occasion. You woke up this morning, that’s special occasion enough.

Drink champagne just because.

3) Purposely overdress to an event.

Don’t be afraid to stand out.

4)Throw caution to the wind and do something daring. Skydive, jump in the pool with your clothes on, kiss a cute boy in the club that you don’t know and then leave.

Watch a Sun Set

5) Appreciate mother nature’s power and beauty. Get up early and watch the sunset. Dance in the rain. Go out on your backporch and marvel at the moon.

Go for a long walk on the beach.

6) Take a day off work and be a tourist in your city. Don’t take your great city for granted. Visit your museums, take a sightseeing tour, take pictures of yourself at famous landmarks. Whatever you laugh at the tourists for doing, go do it.

Don’t let the out of town folks soak up all the culture.

7) Acknowledge your gift. What is that nagging thought or great idea that just won’t go away? It’s your gift. Recognize it, formulate a plan, and getting started letting your light shine.

8) Count your blessings and be a blessing. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Babysit for a friend that needs some me-time. Spend some quality time with your parents.

9) Drop any dead weight. If you know he aint sh*t, aint never gone be sh*t, aint never gone be about sh*t, then stop messing around with him. Holding onto old baggage doesn’t leave space for new blessings to come into your life. If being with him makes you feel like crap, STOP IT! The same goes for female friends. If she’s always making jokes at your expense, borrowing money that never gets repaid or canceling plans at the last minute, then she needs to go bu-bye too.

10) Go on multiple dates in one day. Meet one for breakfast, one for a walk in the park, and then one for dinner and dancing. Then meet your girls at the bar and tell them all about it.

You’ll be tired, but you’ll have a great story to tell.

11) When you get all dressed up, you need as many people as possible to see how cute you look so hit at least five spots in one night. You don’t have to stay long, but you do have to make sure everyone sees fabulous you.

12) Pull an ultimate get little. If you go into a party and it’s a dud, don’t stay. Life is too short to be bored. And don’t bother making up an excuse why you have to leave. Just bounce. Don’t pass go. Don’t collect $200. Don’t say good-bye, just ghost. Head off to the next par-tay. It’s called the ultimate get little.

13) Know that going outside doesn’t have to break the bank.

Find fun free stuff to do and bring your flask.

Instead of paying $10 for a vodka cranberry, just order the $2 cranberry and pour in the contents of your flask. Instant party and fantastic savings.

If You want to find out more information on “Single Girl’s Summer” Deanna Burrell check out her website.  http://singlegirlsummer.com/ or follow her on twitter @SingleGrlSummer

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How to Give Yourself a Scalp Massage

Promote Scalp Health with a scalp massage

Not that you need a reason to do something that feels good but a Scalp Massage is a way to give yourself a treat.  Honestly I wish it is something that I would do more. There are several benefits to doing a scalp massage but the ones that has convinced me in the past to add it to my beauty regiment are these.  Scalp Massage promote hair growth so by promoting blood flow to your follicles.  Scalp Massages relieve stress and tension.  Regular scalp massage stimulates nerves and blood vessels. A staple in Ayurveda, Holistic medicine practices it is used a preventative in many cultures to ward off stress and illlness. scalp massage may be able to increase serotonin levels and relieve pain. Headaches, on the other hand, may be caused by muscle tension, which a scalp massage can also alleviate Scalp massage can also be something you can do with your partner.

So here is a few suggestions on how to get you started.

Choose an Oil…for this purpose I would probably use an Olive Oil with some drops of essential peppermint oil mixed in it, especially since it helps to stimulate blood flow, which is what you are also trying to accomplish with the massage. Gently massage your head with your thumbs and your fingers. According to Yogajournal.com the suggest that you take  fistfuls of hair at the roots, tugging from side to side, with your knuckles very close to the scalp. Squeeze at the temples with the heels of the hands and make slow, wide, circular movements. Look down slightly and massage the back of the neck by squeezing and rolling the muscles. Begin back of your neck), make sure that you move them in a circular motion to relive any tension that you may feel in that area.

at the top of the neck and work your way down, first with one hand and then with the other hand. With your with each thumb on their respective sides of your occipital bone (that large bone in the Open your hands and widen the pattern of the circular motions to move up the middle of the head to the front hairline and down the sides of each ear. If you can’t be bothered to perform a scalp massage on yourself there are a variety of scalp massagers on the market that you can purchase that will do the trick. The goal is to promote healthy hair growth but what is so great about a scalp massage is that it helps to promote total body health.

Mat Pilates

I have recently joined a gym, ugh–The good news is that I have had an opportunity to take the plethora of classes they have to offer.

Last week I have had the pleasure of taking a Mat (on the Floor) Pilates class, And I will have to say that I thoroughly enjoyed it.  I’m not a boot camp or Zumba kinda girl. I don’t like a high intensity work out with a whole lot of movement.

What I loved about the mat Pilates is that alotof the moves were concentrated on specific muscle groups but you didn’t feel as if you were straining or killing yourself, Although you did feel the burn, which to me is the most important thing.

The Pilates “method,” as it is now known, is an exercise system focused on improving flexibility, strength, and body awareness, without necessarily building bulk. The method is a series of controlled movements performed on specially designed spring-resistant exercise apparatus and the sessions are supervised by specially trained instructors.

The key training of Pilates in general is core strengthening and spinal alignment two things that are a great basis for any healthy work out.

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Products for Natural Hair Care

I get so excited when I walk around my little Brooklyn and I see people who like me are starting their natural hair care journey. If you have been following the site for a while you might remember a while back in a post I told you guys that I had stopped relaxing my hair for several at that time 6 months.

If you are like me whose chemical journey began when I was 12 years old. I have had perms for the majority of my life, and came to a part of my existence when I didn’t know what my “real hair” looked like.

And Even though I have been a licensed hairstylist now for nearly 20 years. Dealing with my new virgin hair is a brand new experience.

I was so used to treating and using products on my hair that worked with my relaxed locks that

just aint cutting it with my new waves and curl patterns. But My son’s hair gave me the courage to take the leap into not relaxing my hair and I can honestly say I don’t miss it.

Besides several healthy hair blogs, on the net that have helped me on my journey to

my new curly hair
my new curly hair

transitioning as of now I am wearing a weave, which I get daily comments on about how naturally it blends with my natural hair. But I have been looking at blogs such as…http://www.naturallycurly.com/

http://www.curlynikki.com/
http://www.naturalchica.com/
http://www.afrobella.com/

Youtube has been a Godsent on how to deal with this new mane of mine…
one of my FAVORITE Vloggers who I have had the pleasure of meeting recently is Taren916. She is as personable on the videos as she is in person. and On one of my recent visits to Youtube, I ran across one of her videos that really helps out newly naturals like me.

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Taren’s Tips

Shampoo she suggest Alba botanicals shampoo which has natural ingredients.
Conditioner Kinky Curly KNot today or Tresseme Naturals Silicone Free Conditioner
She herself washes her hair 3 times a week. Just for the curl pattern.
She doesn’t suggest that you Co-Wash for hair cleanliness as it only puts product on her hair rather than clean the scalp.

She suggest using a shampoo without sulfate.
Safflower oil to Moisturize hair.
Kinky Curly Curly Custard to define her curl pattern.
Sleeping on Satin Pillow cases are a must, if Not you can use a satin Bonnet.
Add a Ceramic Blow drier, and a defuser, to your natural hair care arsenal if you want to get big hair.
Eco styler styling Gel, to help you control the frizz and define a curl pattern
A good detangler
Wide tooth comb.

Make sure you check out her website. http://areyaa.com/

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Alexander Skarsgard

Happy Hump Day.  I don’t get it but maybe you do…my sister is obsessed uhm in Love with this Swed, somehow I missed the band wagon on this one, but I also don’t watch HBO’s True Blood.

So at the risk of being inducted into this elite group of Fanatics, I’m going to promise to brush up on my True Blood sometimes in the near future.

If there is sexiness to be had in this world I definitely don’t want to be left out in the cold.

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Finding your Inspiration-Sponsored Post

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Finding Your Inspiration
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In this high paced high pressured world when we are bombarded with all sorts of new gadgets and do-hickeys that not only fight for our attention, but make demands on our time it’s hard to find the little joys of life things that give us the inspiration to strive to be the best Us we can be.
I know for me there are days where I don’t know whether I am coming or going, and all I need is to just get through the day.
But Existing isn’t living.  And I have recently began a quest to enhance my quality of life. Many People suggest making a vision board as a way to visually stimulate your brain into thinking and seeing the goals you want to attain in the future, so that you will be able to find a way to live your life now with the understanding of what is to come tomorrow.

finding your inspiration
My Jeep Inspiration board

But that is sometimes easier said than done. I have literally been making my vision board now for about a year. So when I was approached to participate in getting the word out about AOL and Jeep’s current  contest called, “Life is Legendary” where on Jeep’s website, not only can you find a spark of what inspires you, by completing a inspiration board.

You can also enter a chance to win a $4500 gift card as a grand prize, you can possibly win $50 every week the contest runs.

As for Me a perpetual optimist, What inspires me actually couldn’t go on the inspiration board I created, what inspires me in a word is “Faith.”
I love the idea of waking up every morning knowing that today may be the day I make a break through. I love the idea of knowing that every time I open my eyes, I can correct the mistakes of the past and allow for myself to be able to try and do something different.

And waking with the possibilities of knowing that my good days can extended. By holding on to my faith I Know that my current circumstances, don’t define the totality of my existence and I am not only inspired I am hopeful about what is to become. And grateful for what is.

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