Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys

RHOA's Lawrence

Honestly that wasnt my intent and there were some guys there that didnt swing that way but for whatever reason they werent up to each others taste. But There was one man in particular with whom I was completely enthralled, who came to the party and was a Guest of Our Hostess. He was clearly effeminate but if you missed those signals he had a Fabulous Birken Bag that cost more than my car..to clue you in on what team he played for..

So one night after the party I was hanging out with the aforementioned gentleman. And He made a remark about how he sometimes indulged in the lady pond… ** BLANK STARE** Now, He was completely transparent so I didnt mind asking candid questions and he as completely honest when I asked him which he preferred and He told me his preference was found the comfort of men, but he is constantly hit on by women… To which I asked a dumb question, Do they know youre gay!?! and he said Girl Yes. So I directed my attention to his companion for the evening and he Told me he wasnt Gay persay because his preference is women but he sometimes dabbles in men.

Now this isnt the first Ive heard of this phenomenon, of straight women hitting on and wanting To be sexually involved with openly gay men And Birken is a cool guy and all but am I missing something, could you be attracted to an overtly Gay Man?
Have you heard of this?
Is having a man that dabbles in Men a deal breaker?
and if you are attracted to a gay man what do you attracts you about them?
Do you think its ok to ask your man if hes ever been with other men? Leave a comment Id love to hear your thoughts..

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You can’t handle the truth love & Hip Hop

you can't handle the truth vh1 love and hip hop

 

So tonight was the season premiere of another VH1 show where black women fight and no time like the first episode to get it on, and VH1’s Love & Hip Hop didn’t disappoint….anyone except me.  I could get into the reasons why I’m disappointed at watching this type of show and why I haven’t been watching as much TV as I have in the Past and also why I’m reading more books (I thank crappy TV for that).

But in this episode a few new cast members were introduced, a girl name Vandy? (Please don’t get

Emily and Fab

mad if I don’t know these women’s names I really wasn’t that invested.) The Vandy girl is supposeably Jim Jones’ Manager, and she is trying to get the woman who was affianced to Jim Jones By way of her asking him because she got tired of waiting for him to pop the question (Chrissy), and her paramour’s fellow band mate’s Babbie’s Muva in my Shaquita Voice… whose name is Kimbella?  To get along so they could help get Dipset back together.

First off sorry about that, Dipset band thing but what else can I call them, (I know dipset isn’t a band), and second. Sorry for all the question marks but I don’t care about these chick’s or their names, I’m just giving them to move the story along.

Anywho… Vandy introduced, Kim to Chrissy so they could be one big happy family.  If you watched the show in previous seasons, there is a woman Emily, who is in a “relationship” and I use that word loosely with a rapper Fabulous who refused to be seen in public with her or publicly acknowledge her as his girlfriend, and they lived together and he refused to be on the show….(Damn that was me in a former life)…

 

Any how… In this particular episode She had finally gotten the balls to break up with this man (is it still called that when he doesn’t know he’s in a relationship **shrugs**) and throws a little party to commemorate her new found “freedom”  And as she is announcing her proud split from this man.

 

The new rapper’s (Juelz) baby muva, told the now old baby Muva (Fab’s) that she too spent intimate time with her man, while they were dating, and even more so while they were pregnant OUCH…  SIGH.

Now, I know the truth hurts. And her delivery could have used some work, and although I respect Kim for telling this woman that her “man” cheated on her,  But If this was real life and not reality TV I know I might not have been so honest.

Since they are cast-mates on a reality show, chances are the blogs, wags and more would have outted this girl’s involvement with Fab, because unlike Emily Fab’s Baby Mom’s (sorry I type it ghetto but it’s ghetto)..this young woman might’ve actually been pictured and or seen out in the light of day with Fab and it might have gotten back to them when and if they actually have struck up a genuine friendship, and the fall out and betrayal factor might have been beyond repair

But In real life, If I am initially meeting a woman, invited to her party after meeting her once or twice because she is a friend of a friend AND I realized that both of us might have waded in the same man pool or had him wade in ours, I might skip that little dinner conversation.  Especially if they had a child and He and I were passing fancies’ or He was definitely in my past.

The “other woman” doesn’t owe this woman an explanation and especially if for all intensive purposes she isn’t REALLY his woman.  Especially if as in the episode, when Kimbellla was honest, she Had a bunch of women jumping down her throat, and one literally trying to beat the crap outta her.  And worst off it wasn’t the party she actually offended… People say honesty is the best policy but I say some truths Aint worth telling… and women are funny about their men…

 

I would’ve left well enough alone, but what about you…tell me what you think? Would you have told her, Do you think she was Justified in getting punched in the face..Let me know what you think..

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Did You Miss Me?

If you have been reading the site or better yet re-reading you might have noticed that  we made a few minor adjustments to what we have going on right now. Although we haven’t done an official relaunch and this is kind of a soft porn version of the hard way to go that’s to follow.

I got sick and tired of posting dummy text and foolishness on the site in an effort to make sure everything is up and running.

 

So just a little about what is NEW with the site.  The Single Girl’s Guide to Men, will from now on feature mostly relationship posts as the name indicates, but if you are a avid reader you know We write about a little of e’ry thing…

The men have said…that they don’t really like the title as it doesn’t pertain to them (yet they still read our site I guess it looks a little crazy if someone saw them doing soo Go Figure : ) So our other New Site

http://www.singlegirlsguide.net. will Have some of the relationship stuff  as well as the beauty, fashion, and various Posts from this site.

 

And on top of that we are also launching another site…but we will talk about that December 1.  Sooo Needless to say I have been absent but you guys haven’t been far from my mind.  Stick around I have a whole lot more planned in 2012 so that we are all living our Best Sexy Single Life….

 

Toodles…

Protective Style Lugo’s Hair Review

Lugos Hair Review

I Have been a long time customer of Lugos Hair in Brooklyn. Lugos is a popular hair destination for NY women and Brooklynites specifically. Normally I limit my Lugo Purchase to the Spanish Wave hair.

But Since I haven’t permed my hair in at least six months I was inspired to try to try them again.

I have been dying to try some Halle’s Curl natural hair, But I am sometimes a little impatient when it comes to getting my hair done, When I want it done I don’t have time to be waiting on the mail. So I went to Lugos when I saw a video of a woman with Lugos Jherri Curl Hair.

So I know some people have their favorites when it come to where they buy their hair and since I read the boards I know that Lugos customer service has been criticized but I have never had a problem with it. Ok Let’s get to the hair.

Hair Blend

So I have had the hair in my head for the past month and I get a lot of compliments. I have even had some people who should know better that this isn’t my hair ask me if it was mine.

PROS

So far the hair is very blendable, very easy to style, no need for heat application. Lugos allows for custom color match so the color matches perfectly. Reuseable, I have had Lugos hair before and have reused it up towards a year. At least with Lugos I know I’m getting what I pay for Actual Human Hair which I don’t know with others.

CONS

The hair does shed, I hear people complain about this, however Lugos wefts the hair on site and they give the customer the option of how thin or thick they want the hair to be on the track. The thinner the hair the more the shedding etc. If you worry about that sort of thing seal the weft with a fabric glue before you install. The hair does tangle. Not much but keep in mind this is a corse texture that is very curly. I hate when people say their hair weave doesn’t tangle. Guess what if you have hair that you don’t comb for days IT WILL TANGLE. However the hair is very easy to separate with your fingers or a wide tooth comb and some detangler. You can’t get longer lengths.

STYLING

You will need a detangler, leave in conditioner (I’m using Cantu Shea Butter leave in), some gel ( I use Queen Helene), I also use some Jherri Curl Activator to control the frizz (the gel kind, not the spray that’s very 1988).

Blending

In order to make sure your hair texture matches with the weave, you can use cold wave rods. I was doing a 2 strand twist, rolling it with the rod. Now, I have decided to use bantu knots. Since it could actually wear my hair with a headband if I decide not to blend it at all and just allow it to let the hair dry.

Tantric Sex 101

Not that long ago after a very intense love making session…I looked at my partner a little in shock and awe…and I asked him quite stunned…How did you do that? And He said I practice Tantric
Sex…oooohhh hoity toity… I looked at him and rolled my eyes
BUT…when I was at dinner with a girlfriend this weekend..she told me that she was shocked that her man could achieve an orgasm and just keep going… Now I’ve had a man that could do that…but apparently when she shared her amazing fete with another girl friend…she said…Palease, he didn’t invent anything…it’s just Tantric…
So is your interest peaked???
Tantric Sex is an ancient Hindu Practice that is characterized by intense spiritual and sexual connection.  It’s one of the only spiritual practice that allows you to be sexually free, instead of it being a sin.  And although I’m not asking you to convert… I am saying that maybe if you add some of the tantric practices into your sexual routine you will have a better sex life.
So let’s get started.
Tantric 101
Create a love den…
You don’t have to create a love shrine. But It might help you to set the mood. Create an atmosphere where you will not only tantalize your mates body but his/her senses as well.  Burn incents or scented candles that help to create an aromatically stimulating environment.  Try natural oils like jasmine, ylang ylang and rose.
Breathe each other’s breath.. this is a pretty simple one.  Lay on your partners chest and While your partner exhales you inhale and vice versa. When you synchronize your breathing it will allow you to relax and concentrate on the simple movements of your body. Becoming conscious about your breathing is central to all yoga practices, and it helps you become centered.
EYE Fuck
Maintain Eye Contact…Now there are different suggestions on how to do this. But Try to Look your man in his eye the whole way through. This might be uncomfortable But I know men love to see the look in his woman’s face when she is going down on him, when he is going down on her or even climaxing.
Touch..
There are a lot of erogenous zones that get no attention.  Touch, kiss, lick, massage, stroke your way to the promise land. But make sure that your obvious sexual parts are the very last to get attention.
Sure enough, achieving the big “O” is not Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. If you focus solely on the grand finale, you’ll miss the amazing range of feeling the rest of the show offers.
“Your ultimate, erotic mission is to set every nerve on fire, so go ahead and be creative. “
Tantric Sex – The Secret to Tantric Sex – Cosmopolitan
Cosmo’s Tantra Tricks
• The Waterfall: Place your hand over his penis, fingertips resting lightly on his scrotum, and pour lubricant over the back of your hand so that it trickles between your fingers. Then place your hands on either side of his testicles and slowly, gently slide them up all the way to the tip of his penis. To let him cool down, ask your guy to do the same move on you, cupping his hand over your hot spot, letting the lube drip through his fingers, then spreading the oil up over your clitoris and pubic bone.
• The Serpent: Very gently, stretch the shaft of his penis with one hand by pulling away from his body, and make a circle with the thumb and index finger of your other hand just under the head of his penis. Rotate the circle clockwise until your thumb naturally lifts all the way off the head, repeating the motion as long as he can stand it.
• The Tantric Triangle Touch: With your legs open and bent, your guy inserts his index and middle fingers inside you until the tips are pressing upward just beyond your pubic bone in G-spot territory. He then makes a gentle “come here” movement with his fingers — caressing that sensitive oh-god area — while at the same time resting his other palm on your abdomen within reaching distance of your clitoris (with his fingers pointing up, his arms form a triangle). “I’ve never felt so aroused,” says Lily, 24, whose boyfriend used this passion-revving move on her. “The combination of G-spot stroking, pressure on my pubic area and clitoris caressing created a pleasure triple-whammy. It was a kind of bliss I’d only read about in books with Fabio on the cover.”
Read more: Tantric Sex – The Secret to Tantric Sex – Cosmopolitan

Not that long ago after a very intense love making session…I looked at my partner a little in shock and awe…and I asked him quite stunned…How did you do that? And He said I practice Tantric Sex…oooohhh hoity toity… I looked at him and rolled my eyes BUT…when I was at dinner with a girlfriend this weekend..she told me that she was shocked that her man could achieve an orgasm and just keep going… Now I’ve had a man that could do that…but apparently when she shared her amazing fete with another girl friend…she said…Palease, he didn’t invent anything…it’s just Tantric…
So is your interest peaked???Tantric Sex is an ancient Hindu Practice that is characterized by intense spiritual and sexual connection.  It’s one of the only spiritual practice that allows you to be sexually free, instead of it being a sin.  And although I’m not asking you to convert… I am saying that maybe if you add some of the tantric practices into your sexual routine you will have a better sex life.
So let’s get started. Tantric 101Create a love den…You don’t have to create a love shrine. But It might help you to set the mood. Create an atmosphere where you will not only tantalize your mates body but his/her senses as well.  Burn incents or scented candles that help to create an aromatically stimulating environment.  Try natural oils like jasmine, ylang ylang and rose.Breathe each other’s breath.. this is a pretty simple one.  Lay on your partners chest and While your partner exhales you inhale and vice versa. When you synchronize your breathing it will allow you to relax and concentrate on the simple movements of your body. Becoming conscious about your breathing is central to all yoga practices, and it helps you become centered.

EYE Fuck Maintain Eye Contact…Now there are different suggestions on how to do this. But Try to Look your man in his eye the whole way through. This might be uncomfortable But I know men love to see the look in his woman’s face when she is going down on him, when he is going down on her or even climaxing. Touch..There are a lot of erogenous zones that get no attention.  Touch, kiss, lick, massage, stroke your way to the promise land. But make sure that your obvious sexual parts are the very last to get attention.  Sure enough, achieving the big “O” is not Tantra’s main objective. Instead, you attempt to prolong the act, increasing potent sexual energy and intimacy with your partner. If you focus solely on the grand finale, you’ll miss the amazing range of feeling the rest of the show offers.
Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/tantric-sex-for-beginners-4-easy-tips.html#ixzz1UPTMyj48

“Your ultimate, erotic mission is to set every nerve on fire, so go ahead and be creative. “ Tantric Sex – The Secret to Tantric Sex – Cosmopolitan
Cosmo’s Tantra Tricks

• The Waterfall: Place your hand over his penis, fingertips resting lightly on his scrotum, and pour lubricant over the back of your hand so that it trickles between your fingers. Then place your hands on either side of his testicles and slowly, gently slide them up all the way to the tip of his penis. To let him cool down, ask your guy to do the same move on you, cupping his hand over your hot spot, letting the lube drip through his fingers, then spreading the oil up over your clitoris and pubic bone.• The Serpent: Very gently, stretch the shaft of his penis with one hand by pulling away from his body, and make a circle with the thumb and index finger of your other hand just under the head of his penis. Rotate the circle clockwise until your thumb naturally lifts all the way off the head, repeating the motion as long as he can stand it.• The Tantric Triangle Touch: With your legs open and bent, your guy inserts his index and middle fingers inside you until the tips are pressing upward just beyond your pubic bone in G-spot territory. He then makes a gentle “come here” movement with his fingers — caressing that sensitive oh-god area — while at the same time resting his other palm on your abdomen within reaching distance of your clitoris (with his fingers pointing up, his arms form a triangle). “I’ve never felt so aroused,” says Lily, 24, whose boyfriend used this passion-revving move on her. “The combination of G-spot stroking, pressure on my pubic area and clitoris caressing created a pleasure triple-whammy. It was a kind of bliss I’d only read about in books with Fabio on the cover.”

Read more: Tantric Sex – The Secret to Tantric Sex – Cosmopolitan

Friend with benefits? (freaky friday)

Friends with benefits When I was having my casual sex encounters I frequently found them by online dating. The town I was living in didn’t have many options so I usually found guys in the next city which was about 45 minutes away. Most times I went to them but I finally met a guy who was willing to come to me. Disclaimer: know it may seem as though I was desperate but that was not the case. I wanted to have these experiences so I was willing to travel if it was necessary. We decided to meet in a neutral territory which was refreshing and it turned out he went to college in my town so he knew exactly where he wanted to meet. When I walked into the coffee shop he was standing in line placing an order and I stood next to him and immediately felt comfortable. He offered to buy me something but I wasn’t hungry. He was very friendly and good looking but seemed a bit unkempt. He needed a haircut, his color needed to be redone and he needed a little grooming in other areas as well but other than that he was doable. The first thing he told me was that I could not f*ck him because apparently he had already been ravished by someone and was very sore. I said “Why would you assume that I wanted to f*ck you”. I don’t remember his response but I guess he just wanted to make that clear in case we took the evening to the bedroom. We decided to take a walk around town and chat some more. During our walk I was telling him one of my dreams for the future and he immediately shot it down. Right away I noted to myself that he would not be anything more to me but another one night stand. When we got back to my apartment we started kissing and he tried to pick me up and carry me to my room which was very awkward because he was obviously not strong enough and during foreplay he pulled a baby wipe out of his bag of supplies and wiped my private places. I immediately started laughing because no one has ever done that to me before but I assumed he had had a bad experience. He was very weird but I felt strangely safe with him. He was not very good at any of the foreplay and on top of it all he had a very small penis and a quick trigger, it was over before it began. He was an older guy and had partners much younger than me so I was in a totally different category. He had no idea what to do with me and the poor guy didn’t even have a clue how to touch skin as soft as mine. What I liked about him was that he was very considerate of how I felt. He asked me constantly was I okay and I appreciated that. When I asked him would he like to come back again he said “Why would you want me to come back when you said that I don’t touch you the right way”. I did have a lot of complaints but I said “Sometimes sex is not the greatest with someone the first time but it can get better once you get to know each other better”. I told him we could be “Friends with benefits”. He did come back again but this time he stepped up his game. He was well groomed and bought dinner. The sex improved and I reminded him that I said the second time would be better. He really was a sweet guy and he sent me a card for my birthday and even for holidays but he was trying too hard to figure out what it meant to be a friend with benefits. I must admit that I didn’t know what it meant either and the only reason I let him come back was because he was considerate, nice, and I would have preferred to have just one person for sex. I saw him a few more times but he was still unsure of what type of person I was and what I needed or wanted. He just could not seem to go with the flow. I think he was confused about the friend part in friends with benefits. Maybe I should have said F*ck buddy who knows? Can someone tell me what the difference is between a friend with benefits and a f*ck buddy?

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Marriage Rihanna Style

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Out of the mouth of this Babes..with my mother’s pending nuptials set to go off this weekend.

I thought it was interesting when I came across Rihanna’s recent “Interview” Magazine’s well, interview which was conducted by friend and label mate Kanye West, where Rihanna talked about her views on marriage and I have to say I agree. She has one of the best grasps on the institution of marriage I’ve heard in a while.

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“I think marriage in general…I think people put a lot Of pressure on the title of marriage and the actual wedding. But I think you should already feel married before you get married. I think a wedding should just be a celebration of the marriage, and you
Should already feel like husband and wife.

You should feel like your love is completely unconditional to this Person, that it doesn’t matter what — that you will be down with that person forever. I’d have up have that–and I’d know when I had it. If you’re second guessing it, then it’s not there. You would know it. You would even have to think twice about it.

Well said…Ri Ri…